Living at home in your 30s is not a choice...it's the only sane option many people have.

There seems to have been a great deal of talk over the last week or so amongst “the chattering classes” about late 20s and 30 year olds who still live at home with their parents. Indeed one Telegraph blogger has accused them of being “sad Peter Pans.”

I’m 32 and I still live at home with my parents, not through choice but because there are a number of factors which have stopped me being able to move out.

Firstly, I’m disabled; I’ve had Cerebral Palsy from birth and so I can’t move far as I need a support network close by in case something goes wrong. This also stops me from being able to relocate for work. In relation to that, I also have to be very picky about the kind of job I can do. I simply don’t have the stamina to be able to cope with a full time job, five days a week with only four weeks holiday a year. I’d be worn out in a few months. Also, unfortunately, for me anyway, the village I live in is highly sort after and is prime commuter territory for most of the major towns and cities in Yorkshire. Obviously, this bumps the prices up, way beyond what a first time buyer like me can afford.

Secondly, given my disability I don’t have the ability, skills or luxury of being able to buy a cheaper house that requires quite a bit of fixing up. I simply don’t have that option. Furthermore, I don’t have the money to be able to pay someone to come in and fix it all up, even if I could find one.

Thirdly, like most young people in employment these days, I’m on an hourly paid contract, which runs from one school year to another. This also means that I get no holiday or sickness pay. Keep in mind that within education there are 12-13 weeks a year which are holidays. Added to which I didn’t officially start working this year until late October/early November, because the school couldn’t get its act together and find me some students to teach. Even then up until March I was only working about 8 or 9 hours a week. Therefore, I was only earning around £650 – 700 (before tax) a month. This went even lower if we had a half term or the two week Christmas holidays in the month. During the six week summer holidays I won’t get a penny. Remember on an hourly paid contract, if you’re not working you’re not earning. I’ve just found out that there is funding available for next year so I get to keep my job as a tutor. However, up until a few days ago it was looking incredibly likely that I would be back unemployed, come July. On such a fluctuating contract it isn’t even possible to rent a flat, because you don’t have a regular income coming in. Without a certain level of security and a fixed, basic monthly income, renting or buying a place of your own is simply financial suicide. Therefore, with more and more of these contracts being used by employers’ is it really any wonder that more young people are being forced to live at home?

I realise that my situation adds extra layers of complication, but, even without my disability, having to cope on the kind of contract I’m on would make moving out virtually impossible for anyone.

I hear people all the time banging on about the need for a real “living wage” which would be great. Unfortunately that will never happen, because to do so would be financial suicide for the country. Our expectations and living standards are far higher than most places and as such already make the UK very uncompetitive in terms of the services and goods we provide. Now that we are in competition with countries like China (who have the ability to force their people to work for slave labour, which allows them to be unnaturally and unfairly competitive) the chance of a decent living wage being reintroduced are non-existent. Unless we can force countries like China to be far more ethical and financially generous in how they treat their workers (dream on!) wages in this country will NEVER match our extortionately high living standards. It is that simple, I’m afraid.

Therefore, that means that many more people are going to be forced to live at home longer, as the cost of living is well beyond the means of workers on crap contracts, where there is no security or regular fixed income.

In all honesty, given how bad the economy and the jobs market is at the moment, I genuinely believe that unless I win the lottery I will never have the money to buy or rent my on place.

10 kids and on 50K a year in benefits....and you wonder why I'm so hard on the feckless underclass of our society.

This story WILL PISS you off. Jesus wept, and we wonder why our society is so bad, and why we need to start culling the feckless.

Here, have a read:

 http://www.closeronline.co.uk/RealLife/Reallifestories/stephanie-fennessy-sharp-benefits-claim-scam.aspx

What gets me is the fact that they're so blatant and unashamed about fiddling the system.

I've got really bad cerebral palsy and I can still go out to work.

F**KING SCUM!

Parenting classes won't work. You need far more radical measures to stop children being born to feckless families

So the government wants to give out parenting advice, such as when to bath a baby and provide families with young children a voucher to help pay for parenting classes. Hmmm, I’m sceptical about this for a number of reasons.

Whilst I agree, in principal, with the idea of parenting classes; I do wonder if these Tory toffs are in a position to put in place a scheme that essentially tells others how to raise a child. Let’s face it, most of these elites send their kids off to boarding schools as soon as possible and have nannies to look after their kids because they are too busy to do it themselves.

I have blogged about this issue many times in the past and my suggestions have often been met with stern criticism. I don’t mind that. As regular readers and contributors will know, I enjoy a health and friendly debate and exchange of ideas.

I’m also very sceptical that these classes will be taken up by the ones who need them the most, and indeed should be given parenting classes. I’m willing to bet good money that the majority of these classes will be taken up by the reliable, conscientious and decent parents who genuinely care about their kids, and not the feckless, stupid morons who don’t actually give a shit.

Where I work, we have a group of “young mums,” basically pregnant teens or new mums who come to us from all over the borough, a couple of times a week, to learn the basics of how to care for their babies once they have been born. Jesus wept; you want to hear some of the disgusting stuff that spews from their mouths. For example, I’ve heard them talk in great detail about how many lads they are still sleeping with, whether or not they know (or indeed care) about whom the father is. How much they will be getting in benefits and possible free housing. I’ve even heard a couple of them talking openly about the fact that they got pregnant just so they could get benefits. I’ve even seen at least one of them – whom whilst heavily pregnant – still smoking! All this from girls’ who are not even in their 20s. It’s sickening to hear and I feel so sorry and worried for the poor children.

In our P.C saturated, morally relativist, happy-clappy, touchy feely society we don’t like to hear the blunt truth, because it is often unpalatable for modern, progressive liberals. However, the truth is that if we want to improve our society and give our children the best possible chances, then we need to stop some people from having kids. It is as simple as that, and until we dare to talk about something so radical, nothing will improve.

We need a huge sea-change in attitude in this country, from us seeing it as our right to have kids, to it being a privilege to have children. Children are the greatest privilege you will ever have, but you should first have to earn that privilege by making sure that you can provide for them, support them, love them, teach them and have the endurance to cope with them once things get tough. You should also be willing to accept that it is your responsibility to provide for them, and not the state. Sorry, but if you can’t afford more than one child, don’t have any more. I realise nothing is ever that simple and that mistakes happen. However, with modern contraceptives and improvements to the morning after pill, mistakes are much easier to avoid or correct than they used to be, so long as you’re extra careful. I guess it comes back to people learning to take more personal responsibility and being made bluntly, and sometimes coldly aware of the consequences of their actions.

As Peter Hitchens often points out, if our liberal, progressive government would remove some of the safety nets, like child benefit, housing and other financial incentives which often encourage young, impressionable boy and girls to get pregnant too young (such as the ones I’ve mentioned above) then we would more than likely start to see people thinking far more about the consequences of getting pregnant too young. Admittedly, the numbers of underage teens having babies has been falling recently (which can only be a good thing) but while ever there are still young people out there with such vile attitudes as the young girls who come to where I work; clearly, there is still much more work to do in order to change the mentality and the culture which allows those views to exist.

I know and appreciate that not all young mums and dads have those attitudes and many turn out to be wonderful and loving parents. However, those people would still be like that even if they had to wait a few years and pass certain criteria first before being allowed to start a family. My concern and venom is aimed at the feckless, lazy and uncaring; the ones who simply see their kids as a way to live a life paid for by the hard working people of this country. I work mainly with kids who come from such homes (my school is regarded as quite a good one, certainly the best in the borough) therefore, I see on a daily basis the problems and difficulties kids face when they are born into substandard families. No child should ever be born into such an environment. The truth is it breaks my heart when I have to ring their parents and realise that mum and dad couldn’t give a damn and don’t want to support their children.

The only way we will ever stop this is by being blunt and cold and being honest about the fact that some people should NEVER be allowed to breed. Then put in radical measures and criteria which will stop the feckless from tainting the lives of innocent children whose only crime is having the misfortune to be born into such an environment.

Bad behaviour in schools is not just the result of bad parenting

I was reading a newspaper clipping this week, at work, all about how behaviour in schools is effectively down to poor parenting. Well, yes and no. The article claimed that most bad behaviour was carried out by kids from poor backgrounds; this I can agree with as I now have quite a bit of personal experience tutoring kids from poorer backgrounds.

The article claims that some of the key factors are: bad diet, not enough sleep, lack of discipline and not enough support from parents. All these things I can agree wholeheartedly with. Invariably, the weaker students that I teach come from deprived backgrounds, and they are often the ones who come in tired, have forgotten their equipment, not done their homework, eating and drinking high sugary foods (don’t even get me started on the problems of these energy drinks) or simply don’t turn up at all. The extra tutoring and support I provide them, most bright and hard working kids would kill for and benefit enormously as a result. Indeed, my best successes over the last two years have come from being able to spend extra time with the handful of really bright kids, who have the ability and want to work and achieve, that the school has given me.

Furthermore, on the odd occasion that I’ve had to ring a pupil’s home to complain about attendance or failure to complete the required tasks; the responses I’ve had have been downright disgusting. It is obvious that the putrid sperm and egg donors (who laughingly call themselves parents) don’t give a shit about their kids. One mother started screaming down the phone at me that it wasn’t her responsibility to ensure that her 12 year old son did his homework. When I politely asked whose responsibility it should be? She told me to go forth and multiply and slammed the phone down on me.  Against that kind of mentality, you really can’t win. The real irony is that the school I work at is by far the best school in the area. God help the kids who come from the really bad ones.

As I have written about many times before; the only way you will ever put a stop to this kind of feckless, irresponsible parenting is by passing a law, whereby people have to pass certain criteria before they are allowed to have kids. That way you would weed out most (though granted not all) feckless knuckle-draggers, and stop children being born into unfit homes.

The other key point, which this article doesn’t address, is that for most of the kids who come from these poorer backgrounds, the curriculum on offer is largely geared towards academic subjects. Pretty much without exception, the weaker ability kids, who I work with, don’t have the abilities to cope with academic subjects. They are all practical minded. I can guarantee you now, that in sports or D.T they would easily be able to wipe the floor with me, and indeed would most likely be able to teach me a thing or two. Unfortunately, as we are locked into a one size fits all education system (that is unfairly biased towards academics) these weaker kids get bored, mess about in class and cause untold disruption to their classmates.

I genuinely feel sorry for most of the kids I work with (there is the odd one or two who are just vile and would be a problem no matter what you did for them). However, in general, the kids I work with are trapped in a system that is condemning them and wasting their abilities and talents. Added to which they come from troubled homes and had the misfortune to be born to knuckle-draggers who should never have been allowed to breed. Tragically, this is a vicious cycle that will just keep perpetuating itself, until someone has the balls to propose radical measures to counter this. In the meantime it is our kids who suffer – both the weaker ones, who are trapped and their classmates who have their own learning disrupted because of the kids who are stuck and bored, because we don’t have adequate provision and depth in our education system

To anybody who voted Lib/Lab/Con in the local elections, you're all a bunch of F**king idiots and you'll get what you deserve.

Dear God in Heaven! If the polls are to be believed the moronic plebs of this nation are set to give Labour a further 700 local council seats. For F**KS SAKE!!!!!!!

I really do give up; this country deserves all it gets. If the people of this nation can’t see/remember the damage that Labour did to Great Britain for 13 years, with their progressive, multiculturalist ideology, light-touch, de regulation of our banking system and countless successful attempts at destroying our freedom and surrendering powers to the EUSSR; then screw you! You pathetic plebs are as thick as pig sh*t. If these polls are right, then you idiots have basically doomed all of us.

The only way to save this country is to stop voting for the Lib/Lab/Cons, they are ALL as bad as each other, yet the morons still vote for them.

I haven’t voted this time because all I had a choice of was Lib/Lab/Con or Green. Sorry, but not voting for any of you. I would have voted UKIP if I’d been allowed.

In my last blog piece I wrote about how I loathed and detested the MPs for selling us out and lying to us. However, I now loath and detest the idiots who haven’t woken up and are still willing to swallow all the BS, much more.

I swear if I was able and had the money to do so, I would leave this septic island and never come back.

Well, as the saying goes, you’ve made your bed, now lay in it. The people really do get the politicians they deserve. The problem is the unthinking, tribal, plebs drag the rest of us down with them.

Will the last person, with any sense, to leave the UK please turn the lights off, because I don't want to see this country rip itself apart. Jesus wept!

The Chancellor gives more of our money, through the back door, to the failed EU project

So the Chancellor, Gideon Osborne, has secretly given more of our money to the EU, via the back door. The BBC reported yesteray that Mr. Osborne has given £10 Billion to the IMF loan fund, which is specifically there to aid troubled economies. It doesn't take a genius to work out exactly where that money will end up....straight into the hands of struggling EU economies.

Hands up who remembers Dave Cameron saying last year that the UK would NOT contribute another penny to help bail out the EU. Yet another "Cast Iron Guarantee" that has rusted and collapsed.

I honestly cannot put into words how much I loath and detest our politicians, and I am quickly starting to feel that same loathing and anger towards the plebs of this country who continue to believe the bullshit and lies that they are fed. (Pardon my language) but SERIOUSLY WAKE THE F**K UP!!!!! Stop voting for this Lib/Lab/Con sham! Please, for the love of God, realise that these parties are NEVER going to change; they are all pro EU and have their sights on the gravy train and cushy jobs in Europe once they retire.

I am sick to the back teeth of idiots who complained about the last shower, always saying how corrupt they were, but then come the election still voted for them. Similarly, the idiots who bought into Camerons, spin and waffle. It was obvious to ANYONE with half a brain what a snake oil salesman he was. For goodness sake he's an EX PR guy. Amazingly, there are still people who defend the centre ground, spineless, spin-loving Torries. What the hell is wrong with you people?!

If this last slight of hand by the Chancellor and Dave Cameron hasn't made you see that you can't trust a word they say, or that your hard earned taxes are going to prop up an unbelievably corrupt and undemocratic, failed quassi marxist experiment, then God help you. Our country is increasingly being sold out to the EUSSR and you people are allowing it to happen. STOP VOTING for the 3 main parties and WAKE UP!!!!!!!

My forthcoming exhibition

Dear readers,

the reason I haven't been blogging much for the past month is because I've had lots on with regard to work (which has been a bloody nightmare) and also because I have my first ever exhibition coming up.

With that in mind I thought I would share with you some of the paintings that will be in the exhibition next month.